¹² I am sending him back to you, sending my very heart. ¹³ I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, ¹⁴ but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. ¹⁵ For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, ¹⁶ no longer as a bondservant but more than a bondservant, as a beloved brother—especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord. – Philemon 1:12-16 ESV

Paul was sending Onesimus back to Philemon, and Paul made it clear that this had not been an easy decision. In a sense, Paul was sending his very heart because he loved Onesimus as if he were his own son. This young man had come to mean a great deal to the apostle, and it must have grieved him deeply to think of Onesimus leaving his side. But Paul wanted to do the right thing; he knew that the rift between Onesimus and Philemon needed to be healed.

But as difficult as it was for Paul, stop and consider the feelings of Onesimus. They say there are two sides to every story, and in the case of Onesimus, we know next to nothing about how he came to be a slave, why he ran away, or what kind of conditions he had lived under while serving in Philemon’s house. But it seems likely that something motivated his decision to escape his condition as a slave. Perhaps it was nothing more than the natural human desire to be free.

It is fascinating to speculate about Onesimus’ backstory. Perhaps he had sold himself into servitude to pay back a debt he owed to Philemon, or he could have been born into slavery, the unfortunate son of enslaved parents. Then there’s the very real possibility that Onesimus had been a prisoner of war whom Philemon purchased from the slave market.

But regardless of how Onesimus came to be a slave or why he decided to run away, Paul somehow convinced him to return. What a fascinating conversation that must have been. Just imagine how long Paul must have wrestled with the idea before he ever brought it up with Onesimus. And then consider how Onesimus must have received Paul’s counsel to go back to Philemon and make things right.

There were great risks involved, and yet Onesimus had agreed to follow Paul’s advice, despite knowing that his return could result in his re-enslavement. Not only that, but he could also face severe legal repercussions for his actions. As a runaway slave, he could be beaten, sold, or even put to death. His fate would be in the hands of Philemon. But this young man had willingly chosen to take risks to do what he believed was the right thing.

In an attempt to prepare Philemon for the arrival of his former slave and newfound brother in Christ, Paul used an interesting tactic. He implied that all the while Onesimus had been ministering to him during his imprisonment in Rome, he had done so on Philemon’s behalf. And Paul states that he had been tempted to maintain this arrangement, but had not wanted to make that decision for Philemon.

I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. – Philemon 1:13-14 ESV

Interestingly enough, Paul seemed to view Onesimus as a gift from Philemon. And yet, the only way Paul could have known about the relationship between Onesimus and Philemon was because Onesimus had divulged it to him. At some point in their relationship, Onesimus revealed his status as a runaway slave. And when Paul heard the name of Onesimus’ master, he recognized God’s hand in it all. Philemon was a dear friend of Paul’s, and he had a slave who had run away and ended up in Rome, where he met Paul and came to faith in Christ. Paul knew that none of this was the result of happenstance, luck, kismet, or karma; it was the handiwork of God.

Paul tried to get Philemon to view these events from a divine perspective, stating, “It seems you lost Onesimus for a little while so that you could have him back forever” (Philemon 1:15 NLT). For Philemon, the loss of his slave had been nothing more than a financial setback; he had lost his property. But Paul reminded Philemon that his loss had actually resulted in great gain. He had lost a slave but was receiving back a brother in Christ.

He is no longer like a slave to you. He is more than a slave, for he is a beloved brother, especially to me. Now he will mean much more to you, both as a man and as a brother in the Lord. – Philemon 1:16 NLT

The young man who was about to walk through Philemon’s door was no longer his property, but a fellow member of the family of God. Onesimus wasn’t Philemon’s personal possession anymore. His life had been paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ.

At one point early in his earthly ministry, Jesus returned to Nazareth, where he entered the synagogue and read from the book of Isaiah.

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,
    because he has anointed me
    to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives
    and recovering of sight to the blind,
    to set at liberty those who are oppressed,
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” – Luke 4:18-19 NLT

And having read this Messianic passage, Jesus handed the scroll back to the attendant and said, “The Scripture you’ve just heard has been fulfilled this very day!” (Luke 4:21 NLT). Jesus had come to proclaim liberty to the captives and to set at liberty those who are oppressed. Of course, He was speaking in terms of spiritual captivity to sin and death, and freedom from the oppression that comes with trying to earn favor with God through human effort. And that is exactly what Onesimus had experienced. He had been set free and, as Jesus had said, “if the Son sets you free, you are truly free” (John 8:36 NLT). 

That verse is found in the middle of a discourse by Jesus in which he was discussing the ability of the truth to set men free. In that same passage, He describes all those who sin as slaves.

“I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave of sin. A slave is not a permanent member of the family, but a son is part of the family forever. So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.” – John 8:35-36 NLT

Prior to coming to faith in Christ, Philemon had been a slave to sin, but he had been set free and now enjoyed status as a son of God. But the same thing was true of Onesimus. He had also been set free from slavery to sin and death and had become Philemon’s spiritual brother. So, why would Philemon continue to treat his brother as a slave?

Paul was asking both of these men to make difficult decisions. Onesimus had made his choice and was returning home. But Philemon still had a choice to make. How would he respond? What would he do when he saw Onesimus?

Jesus came to change the condition of the human heart. He died so that men might experience the life-transformative power of God, which not only restores fallen men to a right relationship with Himself but with one another.

“The supreme work of Christianity is to transform men, so that out of their transformed lives shall come the transformation of all social conditions, and the victories of righteousness and of love.” – G. Campbell Morgan, Living Messages of the Books of the Bible

Paul greatly desired that these two men, who both meant a great deal to him, would allow their faith in Christ to transform their relationship. Paul knew that their choice to live as brothers rather than as slave and master would be a testimony to the gospel’s power. And it would spread throughout the local congregation and into the community.

Father, what a wonderful reminder of the power fo the gospel to transform lives and relationships. Onesimus was returning as a runaway slave, but also as a forgiven, redeemed, and justified follower of Jesus Christ. His status as a slave had not changed, but his relationship with You had been restored. As a result, his relationship with Philemon would never be the same. But both men were going to have to wrestle with their past perspectives about what it means to be a free man. Philemon was going to have to accept his status as a bondservant of Christ and view his former slave as a brother, not a servant.. Onesimus was going to have to accept the reality that salvation had not changed his status as a slave. Legally, he still belonged to Philemon. And he too would have to look at his former master in a radically different way. Each man would have to die to his rights and serve the other selflessly and sacrificially. And what a testimony their redeemed relationship must have had on that community. That is what you have called all of us to experience., for the good of the body of Christ and the benefit of a lost world that needs to know that the gospel really is life changing. Amen

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