¹⁰ Why do you pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you despise your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God; ¹¹ for it is written,

¹² So then each of us will give an account of himself to God. – Romans 14:10-12 ESV

Don’t despise. Don’t judge.

To judge is to assume that you know what is right and wrong for everybody else. To despise is to treat with contempt those who, by your estimation, are “weaker” in their faith. In either case, Paul warns against treating your Christian brothers or sisters this way. When you do, you set yourself up as God, taking on a role that does not belong to you. In His Sermon on the Mount, Jesus warned against judging others.

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?” – Matthew 7:1-3 ESV

“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.” – Luke 6:37 NLT

It is presumptuous and dangerous for us to play God in the life of another believer. But that is what we are doing when we judge them. We are neither omniscient nor omnipresent, so it is impossible for us to accurately discern the heart of another human being. Because we are finite creatures, we are limited to the external evidence we can see. But Jesus disclosed that the day is coming when we each have to account for our actions, but not those of others.

Paul reminded the believers in Corinth, “For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body” (2 Corinthians 5:10 NLT). God will be our judge. He will determine whether what we have done was right or wrong, and determine the quality of the works we have done since coming to know Christ.

This will all take place at the Bema Seat of Christ. This judgment has nothing to do with our salvation, but will determine the rewards we receive in the eternal Kingdom. Paul talked about this event in his letter to the believers in Corinth.

Anyone who builds on that foundation may use a variety of materials—gold, silver, jewels, wood, hay, or straw. But on the judgment day, fire will reveal what kind of work each builder has done. The fire will show if a person’s work has any value. If the work survives, that builder will receive a reward. But if the work is burned up, the builder will suffer great loss. The builder will be saved, but like someone barely escaping through a wall of flames. – 1 Corinthians 3:12-15 NLT

But it is interesting to note that, on another occasion, Paul wrote the following words to the same church:

It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. God will judge those on the outside; but as the Scriptures say, “You must remove the evil person from among you.” – 1 Corinthians 5:12-13 NLT

Here, Paul is telling believers to judge one another. But notice the difference. This concerns sin in the life of the believer and has nothing to do with grey areas, personal preferences, or the opinions of men. If the Word of God condemns their action as sinful, then we must deal with it accordingly. In this case, Paul was addressing an issue in the church in Corinth that had become intolerable, and he painted a clear picture of the problem.

I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do. I am told that a man in your church is living in sin with his stepmother. You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man from your fellowship. – 1 Corinthians 5:1-2 NLT

Rather than condemn this man’s behavior as unacceptable, they were approving of it by gladly tolerating it in their midst. In fact, they were evidently bragging about their progressive tolerance. So Paul let them have it.

Your boasting about this is terrible. Don’t you realize that this sin is like a little yeast that spreads through the whole batch of dough? Get rid of the old “yeast” by removing this wicked person from among you. Then you will be like a fresh batch of dough made without yeast, which is what you really are. – 1 Corinthians 5:6-7 NLT

Earlier in his letter to the Romans, Paul encouraged them to draw clear distinctions between good and evil in their midst. 

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. – Romans 12:9 NLT

It is not loving to tolerate and to overlook sin in the life of a brother or sister in Christ. And it does not make you more “spiritual” to refuse to judge someone in the body of Christ who is blatantly and consistently sinning. Paul expected believers to take a strong stand against sin within the camp and provided clear directions for dealing with sin within the body of Christ.

Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. – Galatians 6:1 NLT

James echoed this sentiment when he wrote, “My dear brothers and sisters, if someone among you wanders away from the truth and is brought back, you can be sure that whoever brings the sinner back will save that person from death and bring about the forgiveness of many sins” (James 5:19-20 NLT).

It is important to remember that the context of Romans 14 is judging and despising one another based on personal opinions, not the Word of God. Paul warns against determining right and wrong based on one’s own criteria rather than God’s. It is similar to what the Pharisees and religious leaders of Jesus’ day were guilty of doing. They had developed their own set of rules and regulations that had nothing to do with God’s Word or will. They judged others for their inability to live up to the self-imposed standards they had established, but that was not their job.

These men had a God-ordained responsibility to help the people interpret and apply the Mosaic Law, a fact Jesus pointed out.

“The teachers of religious law and the Pharisees are the official interpreters of the law of Moses. So practice and obey whatever they tell you…”  – Matthew 23:2-3 NLT

However, Jesus also warned against emulating the behavior of the Jewish religious leaders.

“…but don’t follow their example. For they don’t practice what they teach. They crush people with unbearable religious demands and never lift a finger to ease the burden.” – Matthew 23:2-4 NLT

God had not appointed them to be the arbiters of truth. It was not up to them to determine right and wrong because God had clearly delineated the boundaries of righteousness and wickedness. Yet, these men had developed their own set of “unbearable religious demands” that they used to judge others as unworthy and unacceptable to God. And Jesus had strong words for these hypocritical self-appointed judges.

“What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you shut the door of the Kingdom of Heaven in people’s faces. You won’t go in yourselves, and you don’t let others enter either.” – Matthew 23:13 NLT

In their pride and arrogance, they refused to accept Jesus as the Messiah and did everything in their power to keep others from doing so as well. They judged others using a set of standards that God neither ordained nor approved, leaving sinners without hope of forgiveness and atonement. But judgment is God’s responsibility, and His Law was designed to show people their sin and their need for a Savior.

For Paul, judgment wasn’t completely off limits; it was a matter of where that judgment was applied. He wants us to know that, as believers, we have no business judging sin among the lost. But we do have a responsibility to judge and deal with sin in the body of Christ because it can be infectious and deadly. But even when judging the sin in our midst, we must do so with love, desiring to see our brother or sister restored in their relationship with God.

We play God when we condemn what God has condoned and approve of what God has forbidden. The prophet Isaiah warned those who did such things.

What sorrow for those who say
    that evil is good and good is evil,
that dark is light and light is dark,
    that bitter is sweet and sweet is bitter.
What sorrow for those who are wise in their own eyes
    and think themselves so clever. – Isaiah 5:20-21 NLT

Solomon wrote, “Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent—both are detestable to the Lord” (Proverbs 17:15 NLT). We must constantly control our desire to judge and despise others based on nothing more than our own opinions. But we must also be careful not to play God by ignoring His Word and tolerating what He has clearly forbidden.